How Deep Culture and Deep Structure Sustain Workplace Bullying
Workplace bullying is often treated as a “personality problem,” yet it persists because it is typically sustained by deeper forces inside organizations. Drawing on Johan Galtung’s (2003) concept of a “deeper layer” beneath visible conflict, this article shows how bullying becomes system-consistent through deep structures (incentives, complaint pathways, risk logic), deep culture (minimization norms and gendered credibility gaps), and repeated violations of basic human needs for safety, dignity, and reality-validation. It also introduces a crucial modern asymmetry: organizations can function as legal “persons” while lacking an embodied moral nervous system, making it easier for harm to be absorbed by employees rather than repaired by the system. Read on.
When Power Cannot Feel: Managing Risk Over Care in Workplace Bullying
Power without moral interior is a particular kind of danger at work: an organization can speak the language of care, values, and psychological safety while remaining structurally incapable of remorse, repair, or embodied accountability. In bullying cases, this mismatch becomes acute when a harmed employee turns to HR expecting protection—only to be reframed as “the problem,” processed through liability logic, and pushed toward exit while the bully remains. This essay traces how institutions translate human harm into organizational risk, why reporting can intensify injury, and how the nervous system carries what the system refuses to metabolize. Read on.
Beyond Empathy: The Hidden Cost of Trauma-Conditioned Sensitivity
Many people equate high empathy with warmth and compassion, but for those shaped by complex childhood trauma, it can feel more like vigilance than kindness. This blog post examines how trauma conditions the nervous system to rapidly detect others’ emotions, often at the expense of self-regulation and choice. What appears as heightened empathy may actually be a survival adaptation—automatic, urgent, and difficult to turn off. Drawing on research from developmental psychology and neuroscience, the post distinguishes between empathic resonance (feeling with others) and empathic freedom (the capacity to regulate and choose engagement). It offers a trauma-informed perspective on the cost of involuntary resonance and the path to restoring boundaries, self-agency, and true compassion. Read on.
In the Healer’s Seat: Navigating Power, Projection, and Responsibility
What happens when the person we turn to for healing is themselves carrying unaddressed wounds? This article explores the paradox at the heart of the practitioner-client relationship: the very qualities that make practitioners compassionate and insightful—their own histories of suffering—can also become sources of unconscious projection and harm if left unexamined. Drawing on Jung’s concept of the “wounded healer” and contemporary clinical insights, we investigate how projections, transference, and countertransference shape the healing relationship. Ultimately, the article challenges practitioners to embrace rigorous self-reflection and ongoing supervision, ensuring their presence is a genuine conduit for healing rather than a screen for unresolved pain. Read on.
Interpersonal Neurobiology Essentials: Mind & Embodied Memory
"Why do affirmations like 'I am safe' often fail when anxiety surges? Interpersonal neurobiology (IPNB) reveals the answer: emotions originate subcortically—20-50ms faster than thought—shaped by relational experiences before cognition intervenes (Öhman, 2005; Schore, 2012).
Traditional CBT teaches us to override feelings with reframing, yet somatic signals create a mismatch: the body screams danger while the mind chants safety. Research shows this leads to treatment dropout as patients reject cognitive explanations when bodily distress persists (Orzechowska et al., 2021). Worse, for trauma survivors, it reactivates childhood gaslighting—recreating misattunement that eroded trust in their own signals (Schore, 2009).
IPNB offers the paradigm shift: Integration, not domination. Healing emerges through co-regulation, somatic attunement, and relational presence—rewiring memory capsules from the bottom up (Siegel, 2012). We're not about self-regulation; we're about co-regulation. Our nervous systems are social organs requiring resonance to thrive."
Discover how this 25-year neuroscience revolution equips therapists, coaches, and leaders to foster genuine resilience—beyond the myth of the autonomous self. Read on to transform your practice with science that honors the whole human." (Siegel, 2012; Schore, 2012)
Living Under Audit: Perfectionism, Gender, and the Body’s Vigilance
Perfectionism is a complex, historically rooted, psychosomatic, and relational phenomenon that shapes how people experience safety, identity, and worth. It touches women and men alike, yet often navigates gendered expectations for performance, care, leadership, and emotional expression. Many perfectionists don’t call themselves perfectionists. They call themselves disciplined, responsible, or simply trying to do what’s right. But beneath these labels lies a relentless drive—a quiet, lifelong audit of every action, word, and feeling. Perfectionism isn’t just about high standards; it’s a posture the body adopts, a breath held tight, a jaw clenched against invisible fears. This article uncovers how perfectionism is woven through our thoughts, relationships, and even our muscles—shaped by gendered expectations and rewarded by a culture that sees flawlessness as virtue. The cost? A life lived at a distance from joy, spontaneity, and the possibility of being imperfect—and still enough.
Vipassana's Hidden Risks: Trauma-Sensitive Paths to Safe Practice
Widely recognized in the West as a powerful path for inner transformation, Vipassana retreats consist of continuous silent meditation sessions throughout the day, combined with mindfulness of posture and breath to deepen awareness and equanimity. Though these ten-day silent retreats promise deep insight, calmness, and relief from stress and overload, the practice can be especially challenging for people with traumatic histories or psychological burdens, as it activates complex internal processes—underscoring the crucial need for trauma sensitivity, gradual pacing, and professional guidance to safely navigate both its healing potential and possible difficulties.
Moral Injury: Origins, Wounding, and the Science of Renewal
At the heart of human life lies a quiet compass, our sense of right and wrong. It is not carved in stone but alive in the body, formed through touch, trust, and belonging. When that compass is betrayed by families, cultures, or workplaces, it can falter. Yet with empathy and truth, it can be renewed. Read on to learn how moral code arises, is wounded, and can be renewed.
Co-Regulation and Co-Dysregulation: Relearning Safety and Connection
Across modern societies and workplaces, autonomy and control are held in high esteem. We praise independence and emotional restraint, often mistaking them for strength. Yet beneath this ideal lies an exhausted and disconnected nervous system. When cultures glorify self-sufficiency, they perpetuate chronic co-dysregulation, systems in which people subtly amplify each other’s stress, shame, and vigilance. What appears as professionalism or composure is often the nervous system’s quiet attempt to survive disconnection. Read on to learn what relational neuroscience reveals about how our bodies are not built for such isolation. In fact, at this stage, the body enters a defensive state that undermines trust, empathy, and cooperation.
The Myth of Self-Regulation: From Isolation to Co-Regulation
For decades, psychology and self-help culture have championed the ideal of self-regulation as a mark of maturity and resilience. The individual who can “stay calm,” “manage their emotions,” and “control their reactions” is often celebrated as psychologically advanced. Yet viewed through the lens of relational neuroscience and the body’s lived experience, this notion reveals itself as partial at best. At its core lies a misunderstanding of human neurobiology. Self-regulation, when severed from co- and eco-regulation, becomes not a sign of strength but of disconnection. Our nervous system was never designed to thrive in isolation. Read on to explore why and how we are wired for connection.
Workplace Bullying: Everyday Warfare at Work and the Cost of Compliance
Workplace bullying is a complex and harmful power struggle that echoes the dynamics of warfare. Just like a war initiated by an aggressive leader, workplace bullying often starts unilaterally and forces the victim to either accept harm or leave. The brutal Russian invasion of Ukraine illustrates this clearly: Russia started the conflict, holds the power to end it, yet demands Ukraine’s complete surrender—paralleling how bullies demand silence or resignation from their targets.
This article explores how unresolved conflicts, failed peace efforts, and conflict avoidance—common in war zones—also fuel toxic workplaces. Without enforceable consequences, aggressors thrive, and victims suffer psychological trauma similar to war survivors. Drawing on expert insights from psychology and workplace bullying research, it shows how organizations can learn from peacebuilding principles: fostering honest communication, enforcing accountability, and promoting emotional intelligence to create safer, healthier work environments.
Understand how workplace bullying is more than interpersonal conflict—it is an ongoing battlefield for respect, power, and survival. Learn actionable strategies to break the cycle of harm and build workplaces rooted in trust and psychological safety. Read to learn more.
Relational Competence and Cultural Forces in Workplaces
In today’s fast-paced world, many long for deep, authentic connections both personally and professionally. Yet, cultural foundations rooted in individualism and patriarchy often deprive individuals of the essential relational skills needed for genuine connection. While patriarchy upholds gendered power imbalances, individualism emphasizes autonomy and self-reliance—frequently at the cost of relational depth. These intertwined influences shape how we communicate, collaborate, and relate across workplaces and communities, creating significant barriers to trust, empathy, and vulnerability. Read on to explore the roots of these challenges and how to overcome them.
Modern Anger Management: Bridging Theory and Body-Based Therapies
Anger is a multifaceted biopsychosocial phenomenon deeply rooted in physiological and neurological processes. It can be experienced as a quiet simmer or a roaring fire, shaping our interactions and well-being. How we manage and express this powerful emotion is crucial, yet complex. Scientific research cautions against impulsive physical venting as a way of reducing anger. Mindful therapeutic approaches offer transformative tools for healing anger that is often entwined with trauma and somatic distress. Read on.
Why Destructive Leadership Persists Despite Being Largely Preventable
Survey evidence indicated that most managers felt ill-prepared to communicate with staff (Harris Poll & Interact, 2019), and only a fraction possessed the naturally recurring patterns of thought, feeling, or behavior needed for effective leadership (Gallup, 2015). When supervisory behavior becomes harmful, the consequences include spiraling stress, clinical anxiety, and major talent loss (Tepper, 2000; Nahum-Shani, Henderson, Lim, & Vinokur, 2014). This article reviews the prevalence of destructive leadership, analyzes its psychological and economic costs, and synthesizes the most recent empirical findings on how leadership either steadies or destabilizes groups during adversity. It also explains why poorly equipped “accidental” managers persist and distills evidence-based remedies that combine rigorous selection, skills training, self-awareness practices, and redesigned remote-work protocols. Read on.
Workplace Bullying Interventions: Effectiveness and Challenges
Workplace bullying remains a persistent and damaging issue with significant consequences for individuals and organizations. As research has advanced, so has the exploration of interventions designed to reduce its prevalence and impact. This article synthesizes recent empirical and meta-analytical evidence from international studies, highlighting key intervention strategies, their effectiveness, and recommendations for future research and practice. In addition, it addresses the unique challenge posed by narcissistic and Dark Triad bosses—a topic that has received increasing attention in the literature. Read on.
Power, Envy, Shame, and Emptiness: The Dark Side of Narcissism at Work
Workplace bullying is a persistent and damaging phenomenon, often perpetrated by individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) or pronounced narcissistic traits. These individuals leverage power and control to manipulate others, motivated by envy and a deep-seated sense of inner emptiness and shame (Stiefenhofer et al., 2025; Yıldırım & Yıldırım, 2022). Understanding the psychological roots and behavioral patterns of those with narcissism is essential for addressing the antagonistic dynamics that damage employee and organizational health. Read on.
Navigating Conflict: From CONFLICT Avoidance to Competence
Navigating Conflict: From Avoidance to Competence
Is conflict avoidance contributing to a toxic workplace? This article dives into the often-misunderstood reasons behind conflict avoidance, revealing it's not just about fearing confrontation, but also about suppressing one's own emotions. Learn how conflict-avoidant leadership can inadvertently fuel workplace bullying by allowing issues to fester, accountability to erode, and toxic behaviors to go unchecked. We explore the dangers of prioritizing harmony over honesty and the missed opportunities for growth when difficult conversations are sidestepped. Discover actionable strategies to cultivate conflict competence, including building emotional intelligence, fostering open communication, and addressing underlying beliefs about conflict. Understand how implementing proactive conflict resolution strategies, such as early intervention and clear policies, can reduce escalation and create a more resilient, respectful, and productive work environment. Break the cycle of avoidance and build a workplace where everyone thrives. Read on to learn how.
Decoding Bullying at Work: Gender, Conflict Avoidance, and Minimization
Understanding Conflict Avoidance and Minimization: A Deadly Combination
In my qualitative phenomenological dissertation research, I interviewed ten women who had encountered workplace bullying by other women. The women’s narratives revealed a recurring theme: many of these women experienced that their male bosses either minimized or avoided dealing with the bullying at work (Hecker, 2024). This often left them feeling helpless, as standing up to the bully and their helpers resulted in no change. Their experiences were dismissed or minimized by those who were supposed to support and stop the threat.
Conflict avoidance and the tendency to minimize bullying are significant barriers to addressing the issue effectively. Research by scholars has shown a clear relationship of men minimizing women's claims of bullying as well as avoiding solving them (Escartín et al., 2011) (Salin, 2021).
These differences in perception can lead to varying thresholds for acknowledging and reporting bullying incidents, making it challenging to address (Benson, 2003). Read on.
From Awareness to Action: A Practical Guide to Combating Workplace Bullying
In today's work environment, it's no longer sufficient to act only when problems like workplace bullying have already occurred. A truly effective approach requires a proactive strategy deeply embedded in the organizational culture, focusing on developing fundamental interpersonal competencies.
Understanding Workplace Bullying: Beyond the Obvious
Workplace bullying is a serious issue with far-reaching consequences. While traditional seminars on harassment and bullying often occur after problems arise, they frequently miss the underlying causes.
This guide provides concrete strategies for organizations (e.g., HR professionals and leaders) and individuals committed to creating healthier, more respectful workplaces that prevent bullying from taking root. Read on to learn about proactive strategies to build a bullying-free culture.
Gaslighting in the Workplace: Protecting Your Mental Health
Gaslighting, derived from the 1938 play "Gas Light," refers to a manipulative form of emotional abuse where one person makes another doubt their perceptions and beliefs. Gaslighting has transcended its theatrical origins to infest, most alarmingly, the professional environment. At its core, gaslighting is about control. The primary mechanism involves a series of strategic lies, distorting facts, or making the victim feel overreactive or overly sensitive when expressing their feelings, which leads the victim to question their sanity. This manipulation is particularly damaging in workplaces, where authority dynamics can magnify the impact of such tactics. Here is how to spot gaslighting and how to respond to it.